Dating Advice From Redbook: 4 Secrets to a Spectacular Relationship By dating editor Nicole Yorio for Redbook What do couples who describe their relationship as spectacular do differently than those who describe theirs as simply so-so? The differences are quite small, actually. "When we look at happy couples, we see that great partnerships are not the result of hours of hard work," says relationship researcher Terri L. Orbuch, Ph.D., who followed 373 couples for over 22 years as part of a marriage study funded by the National Institutes of Health. "It's small changes in behavior and attitude that can transform your relationship." In her new book, "5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great," Orbuch shares the steps you can take to a spectacular relationship. #1. Understand Each Other's Needs "The main reason marriages break up is not conflict, communication problems, or physical incompatibility," Orbuch says. "It's f...